Err...Perfect Boyfriend is not equal to Perfect Husband?

WHile walkin & waitin for the bus to Yishun interchange tis mornin, my colleagues and I had a lil time to chit chat and talk abit about ourselves. Our usual topic will evolve around dance classes, bitchin abt crappy teachers and naughty students in schools. Somehow today, we touched on relationships. I was minding my own business when one of em exclaimed "What? U haven't been on talkin terms with ur bf for 3 weeks?" And then kepo Miss Sophie of course, got interested in the topic! So the other colleague nodded and I could see a tinge of sadness in her eyes but at the same time, it's fiery, as though she's puttin up a resistance. She told us they quarrelled and she will not give in easily, although he did asked her out for a movie and went out together. They went to movies, go to dinner but no talks. But for 3 weeks?? So we asked her what's her bf like...erm, sad to say...sounds like the typical Singapore guys that the newspaper write about. She said he doesn't even remember her birthday! *Gulp* Then we asked, err does he show any form of concern to u? She replied, oh he shows concern to everyone he noes. *Double Gulp* Then we end up talkin abt that M-word...she easily said...she's not the marryin material. She just cannot picture herself being a bride, and feeling all that loving and she does not have that mindset of wanting to care for a family. *Gosh*

Then the question of "When do u think u wanna get married?" was posed to the previous colleague. She replied maybe a year after a proper career takes off, but first gotta find a potential husband. Emmm but she's got a bf...she said, yeah but err...he's not really a husband material! Accordin to her, a perfect bf may not make a perfect husband. He can be a perfect confidant, the closest of friends but not necessary he is the one u want to marry.

Hmmm I am pretty perplexed by tis two ladies, emm actually not really, it's pretty common. Maybe it's juz me n my mentality. The overall feelin i got from tis conversations was SAD. If u noe that ur partner is NOT the right one for u, why do u hold on to the relationship? juz to make use of his/her time for companionship, some fun till someone better comes along? i'd be sad if i were their boyfriends, man, i'll feel so "wasted"! It's parasitic, man!

And what is a Perfect Husband/Wife material? Someone who is matured enuff to handle/pacify u? financially stable? romantic? family-oriented?

What happened to MAKING LOVE? Don't people nowadays start on a relationship based on the thoughts and feeling of wanting to love and support each other anymore and sustain it by understandin, workin around each others' strength & weakness with a hell lot of care & tolerance, in general?

Well i dunno...i guess different people have different expectations. i dunno if i'll ever make it in the Perfect Wife category or am i juz another girlfriend material, i guess time will tell. i juz hope God doesn't play a prank on me, and prove it all wrong, that i am juz a love fool. I hope we are not juz steppin stones for each other, but bricks for a foundation of Love & if God wills, Family, one day.